Dating is exciting.  And confusing.  The daydreams about your future together.  The butterflies...oh how your stomach tingles when you see him.  You have all the right feelings, but how do you know if he's a good guy?  Here are some sure signs:

His friends respect him.  Guys are all about respect.  Guys will respect other guys for all sorts of reasons- integrity, strength, honesty, kindness, success, loyalty.  His friends’ respect is a sign of a good guy.  If this is missing, then you may want to seriously reconsider your relationship.  (If you’re thinking- “He’s a good guy, but his friends are jerks”- remember that he picked his friends).

He prays.  God wants the best for us and He will tell us what to do if we ask.  If a guy is willing to ask God what to do- then this is a guy worthy of your heart.  Everyone goes through tough times.  Some financial.  Accidents happen.  Health fails.  The bad times will happen if you're together long enough.  But this is a guy who will ask God what to do- and will have the right answers!

He asks for advice from people he respects.   The guy who asks for advice will have an easier life.  And so will his wife.  The future has lots of choices- marriage, buying a house, kids, moving, careers.  Go for the guy who works hard to make the best choice.   You also want a guy who respects others.  Guys who don't respect other's opinions tend to have a hard time listening to authority.  This can be frustrating for you when he keeps getting fired because he thinks he's smarter than his boss.  Or legal issues because he doesn't respect the law.  Be cautious of the disrespectful guy... you may find yourself wrapped into his financial and legal issues.

He has goals.  You are wonderfully and fearfully made.  You shouldn't lose who you are to be with a guy.  Likewise, he should be amazing before he meets you.  He should come with his own dreams and desires- not just simply want yours.  A healthy relationship means two individuals choosing to do life together.  This doesn’t mean doing everything together or everything the same.  If he has goals, then you will  be able to follow your own dreams.  If he doesn’t have any interests or goals, then he has no idea what he wants out of life & a serious relationship isn’t a good thing for him right now.

He comes from a good family.  Okay, I get it- not all guys are lucky enough to come from good families.  But, a good family means he will have an easier time being good to you because he that's how he was treated.  A good family means less issues that you're going to have to deal with at some point.  Any pain from a bad family past becomes your pain if you choose to stay with him.  

About the Author


Kristen lives in Florida with her awesome husband and 3 energetic kids. She earned a graduate degree in Clinical Psychology from the University of Michigan and is a psychology professor at a local university. In her free time, she hangs out with family and friends, volunteers at her church and laughs as much as possible. She has a passion for Jesus, helping others and anything chocolate. Follow her on instagram @kristen_hodges_cg